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Respecting our husbands often gets overlooked. Husbands are, after all, the strong head of the household. Sturdy, and never wavering, and we love and respect them for it but they know that already, right? Well, in a way, but they need to hear it from us too.
Us wives can’t just assume that our husbands know we respect and appreciate them, and therefore we don’t have to say it. That would be like your husband thinking, “She knows I love her so I don’t need to say it.” Ouch. I don’t think we’d appreciate that too much, now would we? Just the same, our husbands need to hear it in our words and actions that we appreciate them and most of all, respect them.
Here is a little list of things we can do in our everyday life to show our appreciation and respect for our husbands. Be creative and add your own stuff to this list as there are endless ways and these are just a few ideas. Have fun with it and be creative in your own unique way.
26 Unique ways to Respect Your Husband
Speak kindly to him. Don’t speak to your husband as if he is one of the kids. That is not showing respect and will make him feel undermined, and as if his presence in the house is not important.
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. – Proverbs 15:1
Watch your tone. This one fits right in with the previous one. When speaking to your husband do not let annoyance seep into your voice. Keep it calm and appreciative.
Don’t roll your eyes. When we roll our eyes at our husband it can make him feel as if his opinions are not important to us and like we do not value them. This is another case of making him feel as if he is one of the kids. He is not a child, he is your husband. Always remember that.
Touch him. Now, don’t you roll your eyes at me. As we all know, men are sexual beings. They’re wired that way. Your touch can be a sexual one or it can be a non-sexual touch. Just a touch letting him know you appreciate him. A physical embrace can go a long way.
Put down the phone and look him in the eyes when he is talking. No one wants to come second to technology.
Buy or make him something special to let him know you’ve been thinking of him all day.
Send him a flirty text throughout the day. This one is pretty self-explanatory.
Turn down the lights and set up a nice candlelit dinner for him to come home to.
Keep the house clean so he isn’t walking into a mess coming home from a long day of work. Yes, this means the laundry too.
Do not interrupt him when he’s talking. Women speak 20,000 words a day while men only speak 7,000 a day. We speak just under three times as much as our husband, but that’s no excuse for us to interrupt him when he’s getting those 7,000 words in.
Pray for him. Pray for him, pray over him, pray with him. Prayer is so powerful, it’s important to remember to pray for your husband every day.
Acknowledge him. From the second he walks in that door acknowledge his presence, welcome him with open arms. This doesn’t mean just yelling “hi honey,” and carrying on with what you’re doing. Try to go and welcome him at the door.
Keep yourself looking attractive. Good hygiene may be difficult to keep up especially if you have littles running around your household and endless work to do, but however it may look for you, exercising, doing your makeup or hair, showering, or just simply putting clean clothes on, it is important that you keep yourself looking attractive for your husband.
Speak kindly about him. We talked about speaking kindly to him, now we see the importance of speaking kindly about him. To whomever you may be talking, do not complain about him or the things to does, but rather lift him up with your words.
Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing. – 1 Thessalonians 5:11
Always welcome him home with a kiss. As we spoke earlier about greeting him at the door, do not be grumbling or complaining when you welcome him home, instead show him you’re grateful he’s home and welcome him with a kiss.
Initiate the lovemaking. I have a feeling men all around will be applauding to this one. But seriously, men don’t want to feel as if they’re always the ones asking for sex and you’re just saying yes to fulfill your “duty“. For a change, try being the initiator.
Cut down on the complaining. Your hubby has probably been at a workplace all day surrounded by people who complain about their job, their life, and most everything. I’m willing to bet he doesn’t want to come home to hear more complaining.
Respect his decisions. He is the head of the home and as the wife, assuming your husband has good Christian morals, you are called to submit to your husband. Submit to his decisions with a respectful attitude. Not grumbling under your breath or complaining about it.
Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. – 1 Peter 3:1-2
Focus on what he is doing right. It is so easy to focus solely on what your husband is doing wrong. Instead, focus on what he is doing right.
Go to bed with him & get up with him. Going to bed at the same time is a great habit to get into, and waking up at the same time is great, too. I understand that if you have little ones running around the house it can be difficult to wake up when your husband wakes up, but you don’t have to stay up – if it is at all possible to get up with your husband without wearing yourself out I highly suggest it, because this can be great one-on-one time with your husband before the busy day sets in.
Thank him for all he does. It’s pretty easy to get wound up in the day-to-day. And it’s easy to assume that your husband knows you’re grateful for everything he does to provide for you and your family, but don’t forget to say it to him. It’s always nice thing to hear compliments like that, especially from a grateful spouse.
Say please & thank you. This is kind of like the whole good hygiene thing. Just because you’re married doesn’t give you an excuse to start dressing like a slob, as it also doesn’t give you an excuse to lose your manners.
Don’t speak or act harshly. You might feel like this theme is being repeated throughout the post. That’s because it is. It’s so important to act calmly and respectfully towards your husband that I figured we should go over it a few times to work it into our heads.
Pack love notes or verses in his lunch. Packing your man’s lunch is another subject we won’t go through on this post but is something I highly suggest you do for your husband. While you’re packing his lunch write up a little love note, flirty note, or encouraging verse to surprise him when he opens his lunch.
Ask for his help and then respect how he goes about doing it. You are asking for his help, so don’t try to take over and tell him how to do it. He’s a man, I’m sure he can figure it out.
Admire him. Have you ever caught your hubby just looking at you with those love intoxicated eyes? It’s a wonderful feeling, isn’t it? Do it to him every now and then. Admiring him comes in more ways than one but this is a good start.