I have terrible baby envy.
It seems that everywhere I look there are pictures of babies, baby bumps, or adorable babies in the grocery store, the car next to me, or moms pushing their children in a stroller down the street. I am an avid baby envier.
My husband and I made the decision before we got married that we would wait 2 years after getting married before trying for a baby bird. It seemed reasonable. 2 years gave us time to settle into our rental, and possibly find a place to buy for ourselves in that time before having a baby, figure out jobs, figure out our budget, and just get our lives in order. Well now most of that is done and I’m so ready. Unfortunately, my uncontrollable baby fever is not rubbing off on my hubby anytime soon it doesn’t seem.
But don’t get me wrong, I love every second I get to spend with my husband. He is the most incredible man and I just can’t wait to create a baby, a human being, with him. It’s mind-blowing!
My husband is such a kind-hearted, patient, loving man, it excites me to imagine him being a father. He is so great with kids already, watching him with kids breaks my heart into a million pieces and glues them all back together again. He has so much love for the Lord, our little family, and strangers kids that I cannot wait to see the love he extends out to his very own child. Awaiting that day carries me through the toughest days of baby fever.
The other night I was having a more-than-normal amount of baby fever and feeling a little bummed out, that I decided to pull out my Bible and read. I opened to a random page and my eyes were drawn to a verse that at first I quickly scanned over before going back and feeling God touching my heart. The verse was:
“Sing, O barren one, who did not bear; break forth into singing and cry aloud, you who have not been in labor!” – Isaiah 54:1
The verse then goes on to say “For the children of the desolate one will be more than the children of her who is married,” says the LORD.” But the first portion of the verse is what really jumped out at me.
This verse can mean something different for every person who reads it but for me I felt an overwhelmingness rush over me as if the Lord himself was telling me, “Sing, O child of mine, though you have not had a child yet and have not yet brought new life to this earth, cry aloud with praise to Me, for I am your Maker and your time will come.”
So I will obey and wait, knowing our time will come. In this season of waiting, I will sing and shout praises to the Lord, for all the blessings he has given me. For the greatest blessing of all, my wonderful, understanding, hardworking husband whom I love with my whole being.
Even though every fiber of me is longing to be a mother, I know that if for some reason we could not conceive and have a child of our own flesh and blood, the Lord is enough and he will satisfy me.
“So you, by the help of your God, return, hold fast to love and justice, and wait continually for your God.” – Hosea 12:6
So while I sit here I decided to make a list for other ladies out there like me, checking the calendar and counting down the precious days, a list of stuff to do before your family of 2 becomes a family of 3.
1. TAKE A SPONTANEOUS VACATION – JUST THE TWO OF YOU
Because after that baby bird comes it will certainly be more challenging to pick up and leave when you have to pack a playpen, stroller, diaper bag, toys, a few hundred different outfits (for baby & you), wipes and 3,065 diapers.
2. GO OUT ON THE TOWN
Go to a movie, go dancing, eat at your favorite restaurant, and enjoy being able to stay out late.
3. SLEEP IN
I love sleeping in. My husband is a fairly early bird, so on his days off neither of us sleep very late. But take advantage of the very opportunity you have to sleep in just for the fun of it.
4. GET INVOLVED IN A CHURCH NURSERY OR DAYCARE
Getting involved in a daycare of some sort is a great opportunity to get you more accustomed to being around babies/children, get you prepared for your baby, and it might even help fight off some of that baby fever. Or it may make it worse.
5. MAKE THE MOST OF THESE MOMENTS
These moments with just you and your spouse won’t last forever, so make the most out of them because in no time you’ll have a baby there and it just won’t quite be the same. It will be wonderful in so many ways, but it is so important to appreciate this time with just the two of you because once baby comes it will never quite be just the two of you again.
6. GO FOR HIKES
Go on a hike and explore the great outdoors with your hunny. Adventure!
7. APPRECIATE ALONE TIME WITH YOUR SPOUSE
As it is something to be treasured and not taken for granted.
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What are some of your suggestions
of things to do before having a baby?
I’d love to hear from you!
Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Romans 12:12