Have you ever found that saying “I love you” just doesn’t cut it? Sometimes you want to express your love in ways other than words, and that’s exactly what you’ll find in this post – 60 cute and different ways to say I love you to him.
I get it – sometimes words just aren’t enough. You want to express your love to your man, and with these 60 creative ways to say I love you, you’re bound to find one that will work for you.
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60 DIFFERENT WAYS TO SAY I LOVE YOU TO YOUR HUSBAND
1. MAKE HIS FAVORITE DESSERT
What is that one dessert that your man just can’t pass up? If it’s something you can’t make at home, plan a surprise date night and take him to a restaurant after dinner that serves the dessert he loves.
2. PUT A LOVE NOTE IN HIS LUNCH BOX
Write a special love note for him to find when he’s at work. Who knows, he could be having the worst day at work, and maybe reading a little love note will be exactly what he needs to brighten his day.
These are the love notes I like to use.
Don’t forget to remind him how much he means to you and how much you appreciate all the hard work he does to provide for you and your family every single day.
3. BUY HIM A SMALL AND THOUGHTFUL GIFT
There’s no need to go out and spend hundreds of dollars on a big, elaborate gift. Keep it small and thoughtful. Spend some time thinking about something that your husband would really feel touched to get.
What’s something he has wanted for a LONG time but hasn’t gotten yet? (For my husband, it’s one of these.)
Do you feel like your husband has everything? Here are a couple of unique and different gift ideas for men when you’re not sure what to get them.
4. PRAY FOR HIM
Praying for your husband is a powerful way to show your love to him. Try to make it a daily habit to pray FOR your husband and to pray WITH your husband.
Related: The Power of a Praying Wife
5. SURPRISE HIM WITH LUNCH
If he works somewhere that you can easily meet him for lunch, surprise him by showing up with a delicious, warm, home-cooked meal. (You’ll want one of these if you decide to do that.)
6. FUEL UP THE CAR
Fueling up the car seems like a small and insignificant gesture, but it will mean a lot to your husband when he’s driving in to work and doesn’t have to make a quick stop to fill up.
7. PUT BIBLE VERSES IN WITH HIS LUNCH
Write out some Bible verses and put them in his lunch box every day.
(I started doing this for my husband, and I wasn’t sure if he liked it or if he just read them because they were there. When we were moving and life got busy I started forgetting to put the verses in his lunch box and he started asking me why I had stopped and mentioned a couple times that he really enjoyed when I did it – something seemingly small and insignificant might mean a lot more to your husband than you realize.)
You could write your own out, or you could use these pre-filled notes.
8. DO A CHORE THAT HE USUALLY DOES
Whether he’s in charge of taking out the trash, shoveling the sidewalk, mowing the lawn, or washing the car, surprise your man by having that task done by the time he gets home from work.
9. MAKE HIM A CHEESY CARD
Make a cheesy homemade card for your man (strapped for creativity? Here are a couple ideas to get you started).
The cheesier you can make the card, the better.
10. WRITE HIM A NOTE ON THE MIRROR
Write your special man a secret note on the mirror to greet him first thing in the morning. Or you could use sticky love notes like these and stick them to the mirror, as well.
11. SEND HIM A FLIRTY TEXT
Send your hubby a flirty text in the middle of the day to let him know you’re thinking of him and can’t wait for him to get home from work (trust me – it will brighten his day).
12. COMPLIMENT HIM
Many people believe that compliments are just for women – but men like to hear them, too. Find something new each week that you respect and love about your husband and tell him about it.
13. DO A HOBBY HE LOVES
…even if it’s not something you particularly love to do.
My husband loves sports. He loves playing them, watching them, coaching them (and coaching them through the TV…).
I couldn’t really care less about sports, BUT since it’s something that is so important to my husband I put my not-so-love of sports behind me and join him in watching, cheering for, and playing sports.
Just being with my husband while he’s doing something he loves speaks a million things that words never could.
14. TURN OFF THE PHONE, COMPUTER, AND TV
There’s not much worse than trying to have a conversation with someone whose face is deep in their phone, the computer, or the TV.
They tell you they’re listening to what you’re saying… but you can’t help but feel less important than the screen.
Show your husband respect by giving him your full, undivided attention. When he’s talking to you put your phone down, turn off the TV, and get away from the computer screen. HE is more important than whatever is on that screen.
15. BE THE INITIATOR
If you always wait for your husband to initiate romantic time, try turning the tables and being the initiator for a while – it’ll be a VERY pleasant surprise for him.
16. CLEAN OUT THE CAR
My husband gets a LOT of dirt on himself when he’s a work, and a lot of that dirt ends up in our car. If your car gets dirty, too (whether it’s from you, your husband, or your kids), set some time aside to detail it nicely and make it look like new again.
17. LET HIM PICK THE MOVIE
Even if it’s not your type of movie, let him pick what you watch every once in a while.
18. WRITE OUT THE REASONS WHY YOU LOVE HIM
Then keep that list somewhere that you can easily it. If you get into an argument, go get your list and remind yourself why you love this (sometimes stubborn) man.
This can help you start to think of things that you love about your man.
19. WRITE OUT A LIST OF WHY HE’S VALUABLE
Why does your husband mean so much to you? What are some of his qualities that you find to be the most valuable?
Write them down on paper and refer back to them anytime you get into an argument.
20. STOP NAGGING
If you tend to nag a lot (don’t deny it… we all do it from time to time), set a goal to STOP nagging. No one wants to live with someone who’s a nag. It’s just not pleasant.
21. STOP LETTING THE LITTLE THINGS ANNOY YOU
Have you ever noticed that some of the things your man did while you were dating that you thought were SO cute are now some of the things that annoy you?
Or, maybe new things have popped up that tend to annoy you. Ask yourself if it’s something that’s really worth bringing up.
In 50 years when you’re looking back over your marriage with your wonderful man, will you even remember that this annoyed you? Probably not. But you know what you will remember? All the time you wasted fretting over this little “issue” rather than letting go of your cares and enjoying life with your husband.
22. STOP COMPLAINING
Stop complaining about the way that he does stuff. Again, 50 years down the road, will this matter?
Your husband might not do things the same way you do things, or maybe he does them completely opposite. But it’s probably not worth complaining about.
23. EXERCISE WITH HIM
Exercise is a great way to spend time together. My husband is big into exercising, and I’m not, but going for a walk or a jog together is a good opportunity for us to spend some time together doing something healthy (rather than sitting around just watching movies).
Get out and be active together!
24. JUST HAVE FUN
What’s your husband’s version of fun? Go do it, even if it’s not something you would specifically choose to do.
25. CLEAN YOURSELF UP NICELY
Before your husband gets home from work, shower, do your hair and makeup, put a nice dress on, and surprise him at the door.
Just because you’re not dating anymore doesn’t mean you can’t still date him.
(Hint: You can, and you should!)
26. DON’T PUT HIM DOWN
This is something I used to do without even realizing it – and it was something that was incredibly unhealthy for our marriage.
Whether you put your husband down intentionally, or you do it without realizing it, it’s time to stop.
Take a different approach and anytime you’re tempted to make a demeaning comment or stab at him, make the decision to build him up instead.
27. FORGIVE HIM
I’m a human, you’re a human, your husband is a human. We’re all humans – and we all make mistakes. Forgive your husband when he messes up.
Forgive and forget – DON’T bring it up somewhere down the road when you’re in a different argument.
28. HOLD HIS HAND
Hold his hand in private, hold it in public, hold it everywhere.
29. GIVE HIM A BACK MASSAGE
He works hard to provide for his family… surprise him with a nice back massage at the end of the day.
30. PLAY HIS FAVORITE GAME TOGETHER
Does your hubby have a certain board or card game that he just loves? Set some time aside in the evening to play it with him.
31. KISS HIM IN THE MORNING AND AT NIGHT
Kiss him when you wake up. Kiss him when he leaves from work. Kiss him when he gets home from work. Kiss him before going to bed. Kiss him any time you get the chance.
Have you ever heard of the 15-second kiss challenge and how it can change your marriage? Click here to see what it is and how it changed this marriage.
32. DO DEVOTIONS TOGETHER
Find a devotional that you and your husband can do together on a nightly basis. Be intentional about making time for this, no matter how busy your day gets.
(This is the devotional my husband and I are going through.)
33. GO FOR A WALK TOGETHER
Go for a walk down the street or drive somewhere and go for a walk down some trails. Don’t worry about time – just be present with one another. (Leave your phones in the car!)
34. GIVE HIM A FOOT RUB
Give him a nice foot rub to take the stress of the day off, or get him one of these.
35. MAKE A MEAL AND INCORPORATE HIS FAVORITE DISH/INGREDIENT INTO IT
Does your husband have that one food, or spice, that he can never get enough of? Make a delicious meal out of it.
36. KISS HIM
Out of the blue when he is least expecting it. (Take the 15-second kiss challenge!)
37. LISTEN TO HIM
As I mentioned earlier, your husband shouldn’t have to compete with your phone, the TV, the computer, OR the kids to get your attention.
He should be your number one priority, so putting down the electronics and focusing on what is saying is a good way to show him that you respect, appreciate, and love him.
38. BE POLITE
I see many married couples that are polite to other people be extremely rude or impolite to their spouse. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you don’t have to use your manners anymore – in fact, you should be even more polite to your spouse than you are to other people.
39. WEAR AN OUTFIT YOU KNOW HE LIKES
You know that one outfit in the back of your closet that your husband really likes? Make an effort to wear it every once in a while.
40. GET NEW LINGERIE
Treat yourself (and your husband!) to some new lingerie.
41. CREATE A FUN AND SEXY SCAVENGER HUNT FOR HIM
Spend some time thinking of a fun (and sexy) scavenger hunt that you can create for your husband. You don’t even have to spend any money on it… the treasure at the end could be YOU.
42. DATE HIM
Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you have to stop dating each other. Make it a regular occurrence (at least once a month) to have a special date night together.
If you’re on a budget you don’t even have to leave your house. Just put the kids down to bed and have a romantic evening together.
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43. LET HIM SLEEP IN
Let him sleep in for a change. Even if there are things that need to get done today, don’t worry about them right now. Cuddle in bed together for the morning.
44. MAKE HIM A MIXTAPE
Or, if a mixtape is too outdated for your style, create a playlist of his favorite songs.
45. LEARN HOW TO SHOW HIM RESPECT
Showing our husbands respect is so, so important. This is the book I read when we got married that taught me the true difference between love and respect and how to approach them both.
I would highly recommend it to every married couple.
46. CREATE A PHOTO ALBUM OF YOUR FAVORITE MEMORIES TOGETHER
Starting way back to when you two were just dating and create a photo album filled with your favorite memories over the years.
I made our wedding photo album with Blurb and it turned out SO beautiful! You can check them out here.
47. WORK ON A PROJECT WITH HIM
If your husband is working on a project, lend a helping hand, or just hang out with him. Or you can find a DIY project to start together.
48. GET A YEAR OF DATES
Grab this whole year of dates so you have something new to try every week.
49. ENCOURAGE HIM TO DO SOMETHING HE HAS ALWAYS WANTED TO DO
What is something that your husband has wanted to do but hasn’t done yet? And no, I’m not talking about him “wanting” to clean the gutters… I’m talking about something fun that he would enjoy doing.
If it’s feasible, encourage him to do it.
50. MAKE HIM BREAKFAST
Get up before him in the morning and make him a nice breakfast before work. Get up early enough so you can make him something warm, not just a bowl of cereal.
51. WRITE “I LOVE YOU” WITH FOOD ON HIS PLATE
Arrange his food to say “I love you”.
52. GET THESE 100 THOUGHT-PROVOKING CONVERSATION STARTERS
Whether you’re newlyweds or you’ve been married for 50+ years, connecting with your spouse is important in keeping a strong marriage.
Sometimes we run out of things to say… and that’s when this game comes in handy. It’s a game for couples to play to get to know each other deeper and start meaningful conversations when it feels like your marriage has gone bland.
If that game doesn’t sound like a good fit for you, this is another one of my favorite games to play as a couple.
53. REPAIR HIS CLOTHES FOR HIM
If he has some clothes that have holes in them, patch them up (or go out and buy him some new clothes).
54. IRON HIS CLOTHES
Does he have some clothes that could really use a visit to the ironing board? If so, spend some time ironing his clothes for him.
55. MAKE HIM A 5 SENSES GIFT
Make a special and personalized “just because” gift for him using the 5 senses. You can find some ideas of what to put in the gift here.
56. WRITE SOME SUGGESTIVE NOTES AND STICK THEM IN PLACES AROUND THE HOUSE
Get creative and write some sexy hints on small pieces of paper and hide them in places around the house for him to find over the next few months.
57. GET A JOURNAL
And use it for writing love notes back and forth to one another.
58. CREATE AN OUR AMAZING ADVENTURE BOOK
Grab this adventure book and spend some time filling it with some of your favorite memories together.
59. LEARN HOW TO LOVE HIM WELL (AND IN A WAY HE LIKES) WITH THIS
Loving our husband isn’t always easy. Learn how you can love him in the best way possible using this book.
60. PLAN OUT AN EPIC DATE HE WILL LOVE
Don’t let date night in your marriage become boring. Put the excitement back into dating!
Now that you have these 60 different ways on how you can show your husband how much you love and appreciate him, go start putting them into practice and watch the sparks come to life in your marriage.
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