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“The greatest gift a woman can give her husband is to enjoy herself sexually”
Rather than her just doing her duty.
Physical intimacy is essential to all marriages. Some people were raised being told that sex is filthy, dirty and shameful and that you should save it for the one that you love. Many wives look at physical intimacy as their duty in marriage. This is not a healthy way to see sex; men do not want it to just be about placating them just a while. Sex was created before there was any sin in the world, and if done in marriage it is not dirty, filthy or shameful. Looking into scripture shows us that physical intimacy after marriage is held very highly.
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. – Genesis 2:24.
From the very beginning of time man is instructed to leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife.
Leave and cleave
When you raise kids you are raising them to leave you. God did not give you your children to cleave to. The bond between parent and child is not the same bond God intended between husband and wife.
Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. – Proverbs 22:6
Children are a gift from God that you get the privilege of raising up in the way they should go.
A spouse is a gift from God that you get to enjoy all the days of your life with. If parents put all of their focus on their children and put their marriage on the backburner what happens when you become empty nesters? Where do you try to pick up with a marriage that you have shoved under the rug for so many years?
And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. – Genesis 2:25
Keeping good, fun and regular sexual interactions with your spouse is key to keeping your marriage sizzling. Physical intimacy is meant to be a wonderful experience to enjoy together. It may seem like you are just not in the mood and sex may become an act of fulfilling your duty rather than an act of enjoyment. When this happens is when we need to get back to the basics and figure out why we are feeling this way and come up with a solution.
“Men respond to the woman, and the woman responds to herself: When she is being affirmed and feels good about herself.”
You may be thinking, “Why do I need to change anything if I am still satisfying my husband whether or not I’m in the mood?” Here is why: Men respond to the woman. He will get the ultimate satisfaction when you are enjoying yourself. And for women to enjoy themselves they really have to feel good about themselves. Reading through Song of Solomon you will find this little secret to sexual enjoyment: Affirm. Enjoy.
He affirms her. She invites him sexually
A husband affirming his wife does not have to be sexual, it can be merely a compliment on how beautiful she looks, or him noticing a new outfit she’s wearing. When he affirms her, she feels good about herself and invites him in. When the woman feels fulfilled sexually, the man does also.
It is important, as the woman, to initiate physical intimacy with your husband. When doing this be sure to show enthusiasm, get creative, wear a little something special (or nothing at all), don’t be embarrassed, follow through. And don’t forget to enjoy yourself!
May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer – may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love. – Proverbs 5:18-19
So go ahead ladies, don’t be ashamed to Rejoice in the Husband of Your Youth! Be adventurous and try new things, remember you’re doing life together and it is what you make it; so make it a lifetime of laughing and enjoying one another.
Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Romans 12:12