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DO YOU DREAM OF QUITTING YOUR JOB AND BECOMING A STAY AT HOME MOM?
Does the thought of becoming a stay at home mom and never having to leave your house to go to work excite you? Or are you on the fence about it, worried that if you take this leap and stay home you will be ruining your life?
Becoming a stay at home mom or wife is a wonderful, rewarding job. But it is not right for everyone, and it might not be right for you.
When deciding whether or not being a stay at home mom or wife is the right decision for you and your family, the first thing you should consider is –
WHAT’S YOUR WHY?
Why do you want to become a homemaker? Surely you don’t think by quitting your job and staying home that every day will be a vacation, because it won’t. Some days you will wonder why on earth you ever decided to become a parent or wife who stays home.
Some days you’ll give almost anything to have one more day at your old job. That job that you really didn’t like much.
When you become a homemaker you are taking on one of the most important jobs out there. It is rewarding, it is a blessing, but some days it might not feel worth it.
You can easily start to feel lonely and like your work isn’t appreciated or even noticed.
The days when you feel down in the slumps are the days that you need to remember your why.
Why did you decide to become a homemaker? Why are you striving to do an amazing job at keeping your house, and doing it with joy, even when nobody notices how hard you’re working?
Determine your why and write it down someplace where you can look back on it over and over again.
Your why doesn’t have to be anything elaborate and fancy. It can be short, simple, and to the point.
Being a homemaker is, in my opinion, a humbling and rewarding job – but like I said, it’s not for everyone.
8 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULDN’T BECOME A STAY AT HOME MOM
1. YOUR HUSBAND ISN’T ON BOARD
The first and most important part of transitioning to a homemaker is discussing it with your spouse. Is he on board? Have you talked with him about how it will affect your family’s financial situation and everyday life?
This is a big change you’re about to make – don’t make it if your husband isn’t completely supportive of it.
You and your husband should consider this option carefully and prayerfully before committing to it.
If your husband is not on board with it, I suggest praying about it and revisiting the conversation at a different time. Ask God if this really is His calling for your life, and if so that He would change your husband’s heart. And if it is not His calling for your life, that He would reveal it to you.
2. YOU’RE NOT WILLING TO MAKE SOME LIFESTYLE CHANGES
If you become a stay at home mom that usually means that your two-income family will suddenly be dropping down to a single income family.
While your husband may have an amazing job and be able to easily carry your family on his income alone, there is still a good chance that you will have to cut some things out of your life.
3. YOU’RE NOT OKAY WITH CHANGE
If you can’t handle change well, then becoming a homemaker might not be the right route at this time in your life.
Leaving your job to stay home with your family is a big change and it will likely take a bit of time to get used to.
4. YOU DON’T WANT TO LIVE FRUGALLY
If frugal living is something that doesn’t come naturally to you, that’s fine. It’s something that can be learned, it doesn’t have to be second nature.
But if frugal living is something that you don’t want to do and have no intentions of doing, then this might not be the best option for you right now.
Going from two to one income in a family can be tough, and it certainly requires cutting costs wherever possible. If you’re not willing to save money and live in frugal ways – this may not be for you.
5. IF SPENDING TOO MUCH TIME AROUND YOUR KIDS DRIVES YOU CRAZY
If spending all day every day with your kids is all I have to say to make your hair stand on end – this might not be the right option for you.
When you choose to become a stay at home mom you are committing yourself wholly to your family.
The only way you might get you time is 1) if your kids are in school, or 2) nap time.
While I believe that this is truly rewarding, to be able to raise your own kids and be there with them – even in the mundane of everyday life – it certainly isn’t something that appeals to everyone, and that’s nothing to be ashamed of.
6. YOU GET LONELY WHEN YOU SPEND TOO MUCH TIME AT HOME
If you find yourself getting lonely or stir-crazy when you spend too much time at home, then becoming a homemaker might be the wrong path for you.
When you become a homemaker you are a home. maker. You are the keeper of the home.
So if you can’t spend a day at home without having to go to town to get away and do something, then I don’t know that you will enjoy homemaking too terribly much.
7. YOU LOVE YOUR JOB
If you are at a job that you absolutely love, then unless you are certain being a stay at home mom is something you want, you might want to stay there.
Some people are just wired to work away from home. They love having a job to go to every morning and thrive off of the structure of it.
8. YOU AREN’T A SELF-MOTIVATOR
If you aren’t a self-motivator, then staying home might be a dangerous idea.
Being a homemaker requires you to get things done – without having a boss to keep you accountable.
You need to seek out the things that need to be done, then you need to set time aside to do them.
If you find yourself having a hard time getting away from your couch and favorite Netflix show, not a whole lot would get done around the house.
Being a homemaker is a rewarding, humbling, and incredible experience. I do believe it’s the best job ever – but that’s my biased opinion. Whether you are already a stay at home mom or you’re on the fence about it, I hope these points will help you in the right direction.
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Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Romans 12:12